A living library of personal-development work for the individual. Know thy self.https://becomingop.com/https://becomingop.com/posts/charting-lifes-journey-navigating-purpose-vision/https://becomingop.com/posts/charting-lifes-journey-navigating-purpose-vision/What are you going to leave behind for the world when you turn to dust? Activity Context Understanding why you are doing something, what it is made up of, how you…Mon, 22 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/my-mother-in-law-schooled-me-on-life/https://becomingop.com/posts/my-mother-in-law-schooled-me-on-life/I don't know if there are any other son's-in-law that would admit to being schooled by their mother's-in-law, but it happened to me. You might have noticed, I like…Fri, 19 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/mastering-the-first-step-in-effective-communicat/https://becomingop.com/posts/mastering-the-first-step-in-effective-communicat/Title: 'Mastering the First Step in Effective Communication: Building Rapport' By Rob Way Blog Post Introduction: The Art of Building Rapport In a world where the…Wed, 17 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/embracing-the-power-of-breath-in-personal-develo/https://becomingop.com/posts/embracing-the-power-of-breath-in-personal-develo/Introduction Ever wondered if there's a singular, simple tool capable of tackling most of life's challenges? Imagine mastering a skill that not only helps you…Tue, 16 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/sucker-punch/https://becomingop.com/posts/sucker-punch/Everyone has a guardian who watches over them, a spirit, ever shifting in form. One day, they might appear as an elderly sage: the next, a youthful sprite. Yet, let…Thu, 04 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/5-key-insights-from-the-nlp-days/https://becomingop.com/posts/5-key-insights-from-the-nlp-days/5 Key insights from the NLP days By Robert Way INTRODUCTION Take these 5 key lessons from our blog archive and identify if you can use it for your success. Use…Mon, 01 Jan 2024 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/my-reading-list/https://becomingop.com/posts/my-reading-list/These are the books that have shaped how I think and influenced what I have done with my life. I hope you have your own list, that we share some of the same books…Fri, 15 Jan 2021 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-reading-list/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-reading-list/The initial introduction to this list was very different, but as I have gone through the process of writing this list, all I want to say is.... These are the books…Tue, 22 Sep 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/communication/https://becomingop.com/posts/communication/Strategies, tools and techniques to be effective at communication. Outcome Learn a wide range of new and powerful communication techniques and processes. Benefit…Mon, 21 Sep 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/meditation/https://becomingop.com/posts/meditation/I can't remember when it happened, but at some point, someone I trusted said that meditation is important. You know the kind of person I am talking about. Someone…Mon, 21 Sep 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/compelling-introduction/https://becomingop.com/posts/compelling-introduction/Would you like to know how to introduce yourself in such a way, that people are convinced that you are an authority on the topic you are speaking about. in less…Mon, 21 Sep 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-letter-6/https://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-letter-6/Mate, I hope you are going well. I just wanted to share my reflections from the last few weeks. I see in myself, not just having improved but transformed. Although…Sat, 27 Jun 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/stuff-you-jordan-peterson-clean-my-room/https://becomingop.com/posts/stuff-you-jordan-peterson-clean-my-room/RULE 6: 'set your house in order before you criticise the world.' J.B. Peterson - 12 Rules For Life AND. He is not the only one. The damn book by James Clear…Wed, 24 Jun 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/reframing/https://becomingop.com/posts/reframing/Are you ever stuck in a situation where you are being challenged or faced with a problem? Would you like to look at it from a different angle? What Reframing is the…Mon, 01 Jun 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/sensory-acuity/https://becomingop.com/posts/sensory-acuity/Do you know what a change in someones face means? Do you know what to look for to see if your message has been received? What Having sensory acuity allows you to…Mon, 01 Jun 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-letter-5/https://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-letter-5/It’s freaking awesome the way you have applied yourself to your study. How you have sacrificed time at parties, gaming and dating. Putting all your energy into to…Sat, 30 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/your-year-of-mastery/https://becomingop.com/posts/your-year-of-mastery/2020 is the year of mastery, it is your year. At least, if you are around 27-33. Why that age range? You have been working for about ten years now and its time to…Sun, 24 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-letter-3/https://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-letter-3/Mate, you forwarded me that email from “your friend”, as you call her. You then go on to tell me to avoid discussing your stuff freely with her, since you really…Sun, 24 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/metaphors/https://becomingop.com/posts/metaphors/Do you know how to use stories to communicate emotional states or to enable inception? What Taking our experiences and stories and turning in them into metaphors…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/swap-a-craving-into-a-turn-off/https://becomingop.com/posts/swap-a-craving-into-a-turn-off/Your mind doesn't store 'I love hot chips' and 'I can't stand olives' as words. It stores them as pictures — and those pictures have a structure. One is probably…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-fast-phobia-rewind/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-fast-phobia-rewind/A phobia isn't a character flaw. It's a piece of learning. Somewhere, something got anchored to a stimulus — a spider, a lift, a stage — and because your mind…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-is-nlp/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-is-nlp/The history of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is an interesting one. Simply put, NLP is a collection of communication, personal development, self help and…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/breaking-habits/https://becomingop.com/posts/breaking-habits/Do you pick your nose, bite your nails or scratch an itch you shouldn't? It can be possible to shift or break these habits. What By creating multiple images that…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/time-perception/https://becomingop.com/posts/time-perception/Understanding how we perceive time is a key enabler for goal setting and memory. What We all perceive time differently, specifically the way we conceptualise it in…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/timeline-goals/https://becomingop.com/posts/timeline-goals/Setting goals in your timeline is one of the best ways to create positive tension towards your goals. What Leveraging your understanding of your timeline, you can…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/anchoring/https://becomingop.com/posts/anchoring/Anchoring gives you the ability to call upon past emotions, experiences and feelings to shape how you are in any moment. What Based on the research conducted by…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/ask-your-unconscious-the-pendulum/https://becomingop.com/posts/ask-your-unconscious-the-pendulum/Most of the time your conscious, talkative mind runs the show — and it has opinions about what you should think. This is a way to step around it and get a straight…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/goal-setting/https://becomingop.com/posts/goal-setting/Why Setting goals is an amazing way to ensure tension towards your desires is high. It will help you be pulled towards what you want. What Setting goals is one of…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/parts-integration/https://becomingop.com/posts/parts-integration/Part of you wants to be permanent, part of you wants to run your own business. It is possible to integrate these two parts, find your higher purpose and be one…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/reading-eye-movement/https://becomingop.com/posts/reading-eye-movement/Do you know how to read the meaning of a persons eye patterns. Do you understand what what it means, depending where they look? What Where people look has meaning…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/spelling-strategy/https://becomingop.com/posts/spelling-strategy/Are you trying to teach your kids how to spell? Do you know the process to developing a successful spelling strategy? What Understanding what makes someone a great…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/strategy-elicitation/https://becomingop.com/posts/strategy-elicitation/Would you like to know how someone makes a decision, the process they go through to create something or how you go about achieving something? What The following…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-allergy-technique/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-allergy-technique/Read this first. Allergies can kill. This is not medical advice and it is not a replacement for your medication, your EpiPen, or your doctor. Never test an allergy…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/three-questions-to-shift-a-problem/https://becomingop.com/posts/three-questions-to-shift-a-problem/Sometimes you don't need a deep intervention. You need a pattern interrupt — something that knocks you out of the groove you're stuck in and points you somewhere…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/values/https://becomingop.com/posts/values/What is most important to you, the things that have to exist in your life? In NLP there is one of the best activities I have found for eliciting your values around…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/learning-strategies/https://becomingop.com/posts/learning-strategies/Do you know the best state to be in to learn something? Did you know you can create it? What All learning is state-dependent. In other words… The key to an…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/shift-an-issue-with-the-learning-state/https://becomingop.com/posts/shift-an-issue-with-the-learning-state/There's a state your nervous system drops into when it's relaxed and open — soft eyes, wide attention, nothing gripped. Some people call it the learning state…Sat, 23 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic/https://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic/There are so many good lessons to take away from the Stoic philosophy. Unfortunately they are some times obscured by the time they were written in. Hard to believe…Sun, 17 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-leter-2/https://becomingop.com/posts/emails-from-a-modern-stoic-leter-2/JUDGING from what you tell me, what I read on Facebook, LinkedIn and from what I hear, I feel that you show great promise. You haven’t moved around much at all…Sat, 16 May 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/how-they-find-out-if-you-can-be-hypnotised/https://becomingop.com/posts/how-they-find-out-if-you-can-be-hypnotised/A hypnotist will often do a suggestibility test with you, they would say something like this… “Now we are going to do some suggestibility tests to determine your…Wed, 08 Jan 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-to-expect-from-a-hypnosis-session/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-to-expect-from-a-hypnosis-session/If you have decided you want to be hypnotised, make sure the following exists between you and your hypnotist: - You must consent / agree to be hypnotised. - There…Tue, 07 Jan 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-to-expect-from-hypnotic-trance/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-to-expect-from-hypnotic-trance/Understanding Trance First things first, don’t expect to feel hypnotized, as you are just following suggestions that you choose to listen to or not. Many people…Mon, 06 Jan 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/stoic-sprint-retrospective/https://becomingop.com/posts/stoic-sprint-retrospective/A retrospective (retro), is an activity that is run at the end of a set period of time, following delivery of something (software, report, policy). In a retro, the…Thu, 02 Jan 2020 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/stoic-sprint-planning/https://becomingop.com/posts/stoic-sprint-planning/“Don’t seek for everything to happen as you wish it would, but rather wish that everything happens as it actually will.' - Epictetus Sprint planning is an activity…Tue, 31 Dec 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/know-when-its-time-to-quit-your-job/https://becomingop.com/posts/know-when-its-time-to-quit-your-job/How do you know if a company is a good fit for you, or if you are for the company? Knowing your values makes it very easy to identify what you will and won’t accept…Fri, 27 Dec 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/lessons-in-prioritisation/https://becomingop.com/posts/lessons-in-prioritisation/If you have gone through a ‘transformational change’ program at work, I am willing to bet you have been told that a key success factor of the change is learning how…Thu, 26 Dec 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/plan-for-the-worst-be-ready-for-success/https://becomingop.com/posts/plan-for-the-worst-be-ready-for-success/“Don’t seek for everything to happen as you wish it would, but rather wish that everything happens as it actually will.” Epictetus How many times have you…Wed, 25 Dec 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/god-roh-dah/https://becomingop.com/posts/god-roh-dah/...... You have woken up on the back of a horse drawn carriage, you are one of four people shackled. A man sitting across from you has his mouth gagged with fabric…Sun, 01 Dec 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/my-podcast-blog/https://becomingop.com/posts/my-podcast-blog/I proposed to my wife the very day I bought the engagement ring. Not because I had intended that sequence of events. I just couldn't wait, I couldn’t conceal the secret…Sun, 01 Dec 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/personal-retrospective/https://becomingop.com/posts/personal-retrospective/Marcus Aurelius – Roman Emperor (161 - 180 CE) “If anyone can refute me, show me I’m making a mistake or looking at things from the wrong perspective – I’ll gladly…Mon, 23 Sep 2019 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-first-real-job/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-first-real-job/Do you remember what it was like when you first entered the workforce? I don't mean your first job, the one for a family member or friend. Not the one where you…Wed, 28 Feb 2018 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/anchoring-script/https://becomingop.com/posts/anchoring-script/Anchoring State Elicitation “Can you recall a time when you were totally (desired state), do you remember a specific time? As you go back to that time now, go right…Tue, 03 Oct 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/hypnosis-2/https://becomingop.com/posts/hypnosis-2/Hypnosis An artificially induced trance state resembling sleep, characterised by heightened susceptibility to suggestion. Overview The outcome of hypnosis is to…Wed, 28 Jun 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/understanding-trance/https://becomingop.com/posts/understanding-trance/Understanding Trance First things first, don’t expect to feel hypnotized, as you are just following suggestions that you choose to listen to or not. Many people…Wed, 28 Jun 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/eye-pattern-questions/https://becomingop.com/posts/eye-pattern-questions/Ask these questions to determine whether someone is normally organised or reverse organised. Vr: Visual Remembered Seeing images from memory, recalling things they…Wed, 28 Jun 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/workmate-or-colleague/https://becomingop.com/posts/workmate-or-colleague/There are two types of people you work with, workmates and colleagues. A workmate is someone you: - have had a beer with, - get coffee, - have lunch with (by…Mon, 15 May 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/thanks-a-lot-qantas/https://becomingop.com/posts/thanks-a-lot-qantas/Don't you hate it when you are on a plane, seated in your seat and some person puts their arse right on you. WTF! It happened to me a couple of days ago and all I…Wed, 10 May 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/i-hate-you-and-this-program/https://becomingop.com/posts/i-hate-you-and-this-program/I use to be a trainer for an IT program, not just any, but a really boring one. The sort of thing that people hated to use. On top of it being boring, people were…Sat, 06 May 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/are-you-you/https://becomingop.com/posts/are-you-you/I just got on a jet in Tasmania and saw a face that I had not seen in years. It belonged to a bloke I had worked with as a mentor. Now he was 100% sure that he was…Fri, 05 May 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/so-fuing-what/https://becomingop.com/posts/so-fuing-what/I want to do what ever I can to help you get what you want. My goal is to help you understand what you want, define it and demonstrate how it differs from what you…Thu, 04 May 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/change-tips-for-resolving-resistance-and-conflic/https://becomingop.com/posts/change-tips-for-resolving-resistance-and-conflic/I am going to assume you have been following my blogs on change to date, which means you know the answer to the 4matt of change, you know your outcome, you know the…Fri, 24 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/change-steps-to-take-when-a-person-doesnt-want-t/https://becomingop.com/posts/change-steps-to-take-when-a-person-doesnt-want-t/People don't want to change. We get wedded to doing things in a certain way and we want to keep doing it that way. And more times than not, the reason people…Fri, 24 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/change-whats-the-rub/https://becomingop.com/posts/change-whats-the-rub/If you cannot answer the question, 'whats the rub', then you don't know your customer, your staff, or how the change is going to impact your business. One of the…Thu, 23 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/change-towards-and-away/https://becomingop.com/posts/change-towards-and-away/So if you know the 4matt of the change you are implementing, the next thing you want to be able to answer is what you are moving towards and what you are moving…Tue, 21 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/4matt-of-change/https://becomingop.com/posts/4matt-of-change/If you are responsible for implementing change at work, regardless of scale, there are four key things you need to be able to answer for the people affected by…Mon, 20 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/quick-start-topic-1-6/https://becomingop.com/posts/quick-start-topic-1-6/Below are the first 6 'Quick Start Topics' from my first book Communicating Like A Boss, I thought I would give you a bit of a feel for what the book is about. I…Thu, 16 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/meta-progams/https://becomingop.com/posts/meta-progams/You might have figured this one out by now, there are about 20 odd posts on meta program. But in case it has been missed, here is the meta programs elicitation and…Mon, 13 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-to-consider-when-you-decide-you-want-to-be-/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-to-consider-when-you-decide-you-want-to-be-/If you decide you want to be hypnotised you should make sure you can agree to the following, they are the key criteria that should exist between you and your…Mon, 13 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/finding-your-values/https://becomingop.com/posts/finding-your-values/In NLP there is one of the best activities I have found for eliciting your values around any area of life. Personally I have done this multiple times around…Tue, 07 Mar 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-is-hypnotic-change-work-heck-what-is-trance/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-is-hypnotic-change-work-heck-what-is-trance/Change Work Overview & Suggestibility Test The outcome of hypnosis is to gain confidence in your ability to enter into trance, create a strong relationship with you…Fri, 24 Feb 2017 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/why-isnt-everyone-else-obsessed/https://becomingop.com/posts/why-isnt-everyone-else-obsessed/I have to ask the world, knowing full well I don't have the fame yet to get a massive response. But why isn't everyone else obsessed with personal development? I…Wed, 10 Feb 2016 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/cause-and-effect/https://becomingop.com/posts/cause-and-effect/Continuing on the theme of mindset, I would like to introduce you to the idea of cause and effect. I would say all of us will spend time on both sides of the…Thu, 04 Feb 2016 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/influence-the-psychology-of-persuasion/https://becomingop.com/posts/influence-the-psychology-of-persuasion/This book is one of my favourite books written by a psychologist. The reason I love reading content written by a researcher is it is backed up by experience and…Sat, 23 Jan 2016 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/context-re-frame/https://becomingop.com/posts/context-re-frame/Context Definition:Noun 1. the parts of a written or spoken statement that precede or follow a specific word or passage, usually influencing its meaning or effect…Thu, 21 Jan 2016 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/framing-introduction/https://becomingop.com/posts/framing-introduction/If you've ever had your image turned into a meme, you should understand framing. The second your image was layered over a black box with a funny comment, the…Wed, 20 Jan 2016 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/leadership-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/leadership-filter/How we need to be lead varies from person to person, what you need to consider is what each individual is focused on. “Do you know what you need to do to improve…Wed, 16 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/challenge-response-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/challenge-response-filter/When we come up against a challenge in any situation, aside from freaking out and getting angry; there are three key ways (in the context of NLP meta programs) that…Mon, 14 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/time-awareness-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/time-awareness-filter/We sort of covered this in a previous blog, so I will get right to the point. “Do you have a planner? Or do you prefer to live in the moment and take each day as it…Mon, 14 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/some-thoughts/https://becomingop.com/posts/some-thoughts/I think if you have read any of my filter blog posts you will have guessed by now that people are complex, but by asking the right questions you can get to know how…Sun, 13 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/comparison-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/comparison-filter/“It’s easy, it is the same as the last project we ran!” said the project manager. It is the same old problem; we like to speak the way we like to speak. It is never…Fri, 11 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/preferred-interest-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/preferred-interest-filter/I like this meta program, this is the preferred interest filter. Basically people what people are interested in can be categorized into these 5 things and if we…Thu, 10 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/performance-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/performance-filter/People will have a preference when it comes to how they perform a specific focus on their approach to how they tackle a situation. In NLP Meta program terms we are…Wed, 09 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/decision-making-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/decision-making-filter/I have to admit that this filter is way more complex that what I am about to propose. I guess this is a good place to start, but please note it goes a lot deeper…Tue, 08 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/energy-direction-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/energy-direction-filter/When working with a team, each will have their own energy direction filter. It is how they approach a given task, and what it takes for them to act. Once you know…Mon, 07 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/success-orientation-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/success-orientation-filter/I use to be a cabinet maker apprentice, good gig, but a bit to much saw dust. One thing that the trades I worked with and for is they sucked at feedback, positive…Sun, 06 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/orientation-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/orientation-filter/Our orientation filter (relationship, career, situation, health etc.) can go two different ways, these are possibility or necessity. When some one like @donaldtrump…Sat, 05 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/speaking-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/speaking-filter/I said to one of my team while we were out on the road “have you ever thought of doing research into communication styles”. This bloke was super technical and could…Fri, 04 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/predicate-translation-task/https://becomingop.com/posts/predicate-translation-task/Translation: Change the predicate phrases. The results of the survey sound right to me. (A) - The results of the survey feel right to me. (K) - The results of the…Thu, 03 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/quantum-linguistics/https://becomingop.com/posts/quantum-linguistics/Quantum Linguistics Tools There are multiple tools that can be used to help people make a change, quantum linguistics are tools that can be used to reframe the…Thu, 03 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/strategies/https://becomingop.com/posts/strategies/For every thing we do we have a strategy, eliciting that strategy can help us understand what it is that we do and enable us to make a change if we are not happy…Thu, 03 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/submodalities/https://becomingop.com/posts/submodalities/Like To Dislike “What is a food that you like but you wish you did not? What is a food that’s of a similar logical type, that you absolutely hate? Is it OK with you…Thu, 03 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/listening-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/listening-filter/I do a bit of drawing with a white board marker on my desk, it’s a productivity thing that I might talk about later. Regardless, my boss came up to me and said “are…Thu, 03 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/information-processing-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/information-processing-filter/In a previous post I talked about the communication and behaviour model, it looks at how we process information through our values, beliefs etc. Another part to…Wed, 02 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/abstraction-vs-specific-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/abstraction-vs-specific-filter/This is a simple one, some people are pie in the sky thinkers and others are down in the details. My wife is a super rad marriage celebrant, and the other month she…Tue, 01 Dec 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/work-satisfaction-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/work-satisfaction-filter/When it comes to taking on a new staff member we will want to make sure they feel included and have access to everything they need to be successful, right?Often…Mon, 30 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/motivation-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/motivation-filter/Specifically what we were talking about with this filter was how people are motivated. Now the context can change, you could be talking about a career, buying a car…Sat, 28 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/convincer-filter/https://becomingop.com/posts/convincer-filter/Romel called me and said “you have to check out this program by Eben Pagan (@ebenpagan), it is called Wake Up Productive. You are going to love it!”As soon as the…Fri, 27 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/through-time-vs-in-time/https://becomingop.com/posts/through-time-vs-in-time/So now you know how you perceive time, you are either through time or in time and you would like to know a bit more about what that means. Well some one that is…Fri, 20 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/discover-how-you-perceive-time/https://becomingop.com/posts/discover-how-you-perceive-time/Everyone has a physical concept of time in relation to their body. This can be discovered by trying out the following process, beginning with looking for where you…Thu, 19 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-rules-of-observing-body-language/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-rules-of-observing-body-language/It is important when reading people that you avoid taking one thing you see out of context, you must realise you need to see people as a whole and aim to observe at…Wed, 18 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/body-language/https://becomingop.com/posts/body-language/One of the topics we covered very early on in the face to face mastermind group was body language. We looked at some of the most common things you can look for to…Tue, 17 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/how-you-say-it/https://becomingop.com/posts/how-you-say-it/The meaning of your communication will change depending on the tone you use when speaking. It will affect how the person hears you and what they think of what you…Mon, 16 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/literal-vs-inferential-communication/https://becomingop.com/posts/literal-vs-inferential-communication/When it comes to listening, most times we will hear in one of two ways when some one talks to us. Someone might say 'I'm thirsty'. Would you find that interesting…Fri, 13 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-is-the-focus/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-is-the-focus/You may have just read the blog on focus, if you did you might also like to think through the statements below and flex your analysis muscles. What is the focus for…Thu, 12 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-memory-palace-or-roman-room/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-memory-palace-or-roman-room/Today's Mastermind topic is on memory once again, this time though we are going to use the classic Roman Room method. A method that Roman senators would use to…Wed, 11 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-the-vak-did-you-say/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-the-vak-did-you-say/This activity is to help you hone your ability to identify what representational system a person might be. You will be listening for and recording any visual (V)…Tue, 10 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/what-did-you-say/https://becomingop.com/posts/what-did-you-say/Continuing on the theme of VAK and enabling you to hear people on a new level I want you to have this simple overview of words and phrases people will use in each…Mon, 09 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/you-are-wasting-your-time/https://becomingop.com/posts/you-are-wasting-your-time/Not sure if you have heard this story, but it goes like this. You open your car door and get in, turn on the engine and pull out of the drive. After the first few…Sat, 07 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/preferred-representational-system-questions/https://becomingop.com/posts/preferred-representational-system-questions/I have already talked about Preferred Representational Systems in a previous blog, and we have covered it to death in the face to face mastermind sessions. What has…Fri, 06 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/tribes/https://becomingop.com/posts/tribes/I have just finished my second read through of Tribes; We need you to lead us, by Seth Godin. Well iBook I should say, 8 hours over my drive to and from work. The…Thu, 05 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/vak-observation-activity/https://becomingop.com/posts/vak-observation-activity/A lot has been covered in the mastermind face to face sessions so far. One of the early topics was communication styles, one of the strategies I suggest to improve…Thu, 05 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/communication-and-behaviour-model/https://becomingop.com/posts/communication-and-behaviour-model/Communication and Behaviour Model Our communication with others and ourselves is the basis of behavioural change. When an external event occurs, like some one…Tue, 03 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/developing-a-better-memory-number-rhyme-peg-syst/https://becomingop.com/posts/developing-a-better-memory-number-rhyme-peg-syst/The reason why people learn the number rhyme memory peg system is to improve short term memory. It is used to reduce or replace your reliance on physically written…Mon, 02 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/goal-setting-outcomes/https://becomingop.com/posts/goal-setting-outcomes/Setting goals is one of the best skills I have picked up in my personal development journey. It is also one of those things that every one has the perfect version…Mon, 02 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/perceptual-positions/https://becomingop.com/posts/perceptual-positions/This activity is perfect for thinking out of the box, for connecting with someone you will probably never meet, for exploring issues between you and someone else…Mon, 02 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/representational-systems/https://becomingop.com/posts/representational-systems/We all communicate using different representational systems. We use our five senses (seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling and touching) plus self-talk (internal…Mon, 02 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/the-meaning-of-your-communication-is-the-respons/https://becomingop.com/posts/the-meaning-of-your-communication-is-the-respons/The last 6 months has seen me repeat this statement over and over again. 'The meaning of your communication is the response you get' is a neuro linguistic…Wed, 24 Jun 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/5-things-i-have-learnt-from-pd/https://becomingop.com/posts/5-things-i-have-learnt-from-pd/I have been trying to figure my shit out for years, NLP this, hypnosis that and all the other tools along the way. Not everything that is out there to learn is…Mon, 22 Jun 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/7-tips-for-knowing-what-people-are-thinking/https://becomingop.com/posts/7-tips-for-knowing-what-people-are-thinking/I spend a lot of time working one on one with people, often trying to convince them to take part in things they don't want to do (change is hard for most people). I…Mon, 22 Jun 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/history-of-nlp/https://becomingop.com/posts/history-of-nlp/Neuro Linguistic Programming is a hybrid science that was developed in the late 1960’s and early 1970’s by computer scientist, Richard Bandler, and linguist, John…Mon, 22 Jun 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/connecting-with-others/https://becomingop.com/posts/connecting-with-others/So often when interacting with others, the focus is on what we are saying and what we want out of the interaction. Taking the time practicing how to connect with…Mon, 22 Jun 2015 00:00:00 GMThttps://becomingop.com/posts/values-and-beliefs/https://becomingop.com/posts/values-and-beliefs/Values Values are broad concepts that guide decisions in life; they determine what is important, and they are the foundation of character. Significantly, what the…Mon, 22 Jun 2015 00:00:00 GMT